Affair Over but Stuck

[Hurt06]

All - I need some help plotting my next steps. Who has similar experience living with someone who is disconnected from the marriage but not taking any active steps to leave and appears to be in an MLC after an affair?

Is it against DBing to ask if she wants to see a MC?

She has agreed to see a new female MC this week.

I don't want to pursue but also don't want to push her away either!

You guys are keeping me in check and holding me accountable and I thank everyone for there help!