Alpha - the future is now!

[alpha99]

Thanks for all your advice. I am going to finally seek legal advice in the next day or two and will contact the Gingerbread line.

W left voicemail on phone as I woke up this morning. She also called me. Her plan has changed. Now apparently the kids are disruptive for her due to their time spent with me. BS. It's simple to understand what's going on here: I am a great dad and the kids had a great time due to me giving them my full attention. W doesn't do that. The kids will have gone 'home' to her and have been sidelined whilst she played on her phone or something similar. My S6 in particular has very likely said I want my daddy.

It may sound one sided here but the absolute truth is that I have always been the one to dote on the kids whilst my W has struggled to be a good mum. Now I'm not there it is of course more difficult for her. The whole thing is a joke. I had FIL come on the phone and accuse me of spoiling the kids rotten. Ironic given I make them drink water, don't ply them with sweets, spend time on things like playing in the park, playing games at home, and certainly don't spoil them rotten. Our children are noted for their manners and excellent behaviour, due in large part to how I have ensured they have been brought up. W on the other hand post S has gone mad buying toys, presents, football cards, computer games etc for them. Other people have noted the kids' standard of behaviour dropping as they spend more time away from me. Due to family arguments for which I am now getting all the blame, MIL and FIL didn't see our children for about 4 years. They don't know what went on in that time but of course have been given a highly biased version of events by W.

Gaining more info on her motives as the anger rages out of her. She fears if she agrees to X amount of nights then I won't have to pay child maintenance and I'll try and steal her other child related government benefits. Unfortunately the whole family (W, MIL, FIL) seem to have gone crazy.

When I pointed out that our mortgage is due tomorrow and another bill for which W owes half, she said she wasn't going to pay and shouted off the phone to FIL I'm demanding money from her. I could hear him ranting off the phone that they'll go to court if I want to be nasty. They're so enraged they can't make sense of anything. It's like if I said 'Do you like apple's?' They would reply along the lines of 'why are you bullying me into eating poisonous fruit?' Crazy!!!!

The good thing is I am calm and detached. Feelings for my W are a long way from the surface now.