Guide for LBH who has a Wayward Wife

[Vanilla]

I often think it is not ILY but I still LY or ILY still. In case the WS thinks their behaviour means there is no more love from the LBS.

I am with Sandi on this one.

I believe that loving is a choice, I choose to love my H with all his faults and if his behaviour is damaging then I choose my love of myself first and foremost. limmerance is a choice too, an EA/PA is a choice to make. At some point that choice has consequences and that consequence is or could be an addiction which tramples the soul. With a higher power then that choice is managed. Just as the LBS has chosen to love they can in time choose to love in the way of friend instead or to let go completely of that love (love as in the old R).

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