I guess one of the things that i am fearful for, and not quite ready for yet, is filling out the paperwork for a separation or Divorce.
In some weaker moments over the past few months, i have gotten emotional, and printed out the forms for both, presenting them to her, to make it "real".
Both times are things i wish i could now take back, but its out there now, and I'm not sure how to step backwards without looking indecisive and unsure.
I know she's looking to deal with getting things filled out (she's a planner, and trying to move this fast to get out of the M and on to her R with OM), but i'm not wanting to do things that will further cause rifts and make it harder for possible R.
Maybe you don't have a shot at a real R until you break up. And both grow and you will not tolerate certain BS's anymore, and will hold your partner more accountable and demand more respect.
It takes years for a WAS to have true regrets if they are going to have them. That's why I'm not so sure you should "wait" on a WAS...
