I am not sure why you are going through your wife at this point. I would contact the school counselor directly. Let your W and the school counselor know that you desire and are entitled to all the information and communication regarding your daughter. This is not about your marriage and by going directly to the school you are making that statement plain and simple.
Physical custody is not the same as legal custody. Document everything and be completely transparent with the counselor, the principal and the teachers. This will help your daughter.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
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