Where to begin?

[sgctxok]

You've got it and what Cadet said is true. You can probably count on the fact that she IS going in with her mind made up and she probably WILL use whatever you say. So say little and listen.

This might be kind of a little shock and awe--if you give her nothing to fight against. (What you resist persists.)

Really spend time with understanding what her dissatisfaction is. Sit with it and read Michele's book in light of what your wife has said. Since she might not be talking with the mindset of you really understanding so you can get back together, you can be pretty sure she may say there is little or no hope and that in no way means that is the truth. It is fortune-telling at best.

So listen with an ear to understand what her stereotype of you and your situation is...not every little flaw. And then you work on a 180 to change her perception of you.

Focus on the good. What you focus on expands.


I believe in you, I really believe you've got this.