Should i expose the affair, or?

[Swabby]

So i've made the final decision to not really tell anyone about the A, but i am having some doubts, and thoughts that i just need to get out on "paper" here.

Been listening to lots of self help audio, re-reading DB, etc. One thing that keeps popping up, is the EA and the addictiveness of it all for my W.

I'm trying VERY hard to not let that bother me, and i honestly have my good hours, and bad ones as well. I'm trying to see them for what they are, fears, and thoughts that are trying to run my emotions. This has helped some, but i also allow myself to experience them when i'm in an appropriate and safe place.

Is there techniques that others have found worked for them to get through the "triggers" and times that you suddenly get hit by these emotions?

I've also been dancing back/forth between two ways of approaching our marriage when i'm back in a few days.

1) LRT/180: Completely just move forward and away from my wife. Don't be vindictive, mean, etc. But also don't try to be in our relationship as a couple any longer. Set my boundary for the A clearly. Set things into motion for a separation/divorce and stick firm to it.

2) ...

Both have valid approaches, yet both are also very different in their approach for my healing, and the possible reparation of my relationship with my wife.

I'm working on myself regardless, and trying to be a better me no matter what. I just don't want to do things that may push my wife further away during these next 5 months we're still in the same house together, A or not.

Advice?