Alpha - the future is now!

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Wow, what a mad evening.

I went out, came back, and had several missed calls and a text from W. She wants to renage on our agreement. It turns out she has had family legal advice again. We had a back and forth via text about whether it should be two or three days, both giving our reasons.

I called her thinking it would be easier to speak on the phone. When she rolls out the BS I called her out on it. She put the phone down on me. I tried calling back a few times before sending a text to say she was being childish and we need to discuss this.

Enter the dragon: MIL calls me. I didn't answer. I've got wise to what's coming, a crazy lady ranting - no thanks. So she texts me accusing me of harrassing her daughter.

Let's do the maths:

W called me 17 times today.
I called her 6 (including problems with the line, her putting the phone down/me calling back).

I reply to MIL saying pretty much that and ask her not to text or call me, nice and calmly in a matter of fact kind of way. She replies back saying she'll text me whenever she likes, me and W are over, all her family are around her now.

Unbelievable. We have never got on. Given the chance MIL will control every aspect of W's life. MIL wanted to pick our mortgage when we bought our house, wanted to pick how we decorated, wanted W to work near her house so she could stay over at MIL's. Because I had none of it she took a dislike to me. She showed signs of being nice recently but clearly that was an act. Unfortunately my W is indecisive by nature and hugely swayed by other people, particularly her mum.

I fear things are about to get a lot worse. I could temper things by agreeing to two days a week. W did say in one message we'll see in a few months time about changing.things. The thing I don't get is that she complains she has no free time but won't let me have them. It is definitely not about trust, that is a ruse. It is about her being strongarmed by her mum to protect her legal rights. They must be scared of giving away too much.

Considering all the events of this evening I don't feel so bad. I've been the gym, set a new PB, and now I'm pretty tired. With MIL hell bent on waging war I do see it being difficult for W to gain clarity and/or to reconsider things given any length of time.

I have had a shift in mood the last few days though. I've written before: I love my W, I want things to work out, but as I come to accept it may not, and given the circumstances are stacking up against me, I am more and more able to detach, think of myself, think of my children, and what will be will be.

Does anyone have any advice given what's gone on. I'm sure the legal route would go.against me. Should I accept two days a week and hope W's inability to look after kids properly means she extends things over the short period?

Any sort of R between us seems light years away now. Dating websites, family 'army' backing W up, no desire on her part to work on things, apparent mistrust of me, using the children in game.playing. Wow, how did we ever get here?