...and realizing that you are responsible for your happiness, not the situation (STOP FOCUSSING ON THE EXTERNAL).
My advice to you is to Detach and GAL. Start looking inward to see what is the cause of your dissatisfaction.
What do you want? What activities do you want to make time for? Job? Career? Start the bucket list and start here. Let him do the housework while you go out and do your GAL. You don't need his support or permission.
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.
Believe me, I'd like to detach and GAL. I do have activities that I enjoy, but H seems to assume he can jump in and join, or hover while I do them. This just takes the pleasure from them. I don't want to keep hurting him by telling him I don't want his presence. I have told him he needed to get his own interests, but he seems to have forgotten this (which is history repeating itself).
How many times does a subject need to be raised before it's fair to say...what, I don't even know. History of H doing what he thinks best, even when I tell him what I need. Then I get blamed for not telling him there was a problem! Oh boy, sorry.
Obviously I need to tell him to give me time/space to do my own thing (once again). I am feeling very smothered.
Plain conversation, bucket list, get to work. Thanks!
