OD, I'm glad you and your W have come to an agreement on the weekends and so on. That's a step forward from the limbo you're in, and will hopefully make things easier when you are home with your boys.

I think you'll just have to get used to the fact that she will take herself off to be with OM. But it's no bad thing for them to spend time together - plenty of time to get on each other's nerves and so on. Things need to run their course and the passion and fantasy will ebb away if their A is like most A's.

In the meantime, I think GG is right. It would be great if your exchanges with your W could be more upbeat and pleasant. Now you have a plan, maybe you can just stick to logistics and pleasantries - no R talk. Like GG says, some of these convos are 'nail in the coffin' territory, and you don't want to be there.

Glad to hear you sounding more upbeat anyway OD....x

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