Hi Toots. If your H noted the tenderness after BD the. I wouldn't pin to much on yourself re the dressing part. I sometimes think we all think we need to be perfect to get WAS to comeback. While my own sitch was caused by both myself and W , I took all the blame at the start Im far from perfect and never will be but at the sametime I would consider myself a ". Good guy " in a lot of ways.
Like us all I'm sure you are putting in the work to improve as a person and hopefully for an R with your H but at the same time those improvements are for you first and foremost.
