Alpha - the future is now!

[alpha99]

I've been thinking how stopping all pursuit is so important. I would have to take everything my W has said with a pinch of salt but as I continued to pursue, beg, plead, reason, cry, threaten etc she has slipped further and further away. It went like this:

day or two after BD: We will probably get back together...There's a small chance but I don't want to give you any false hope.

a week or two later: I don't know if we'll ever get back together...

a few weeks later: I don't think we'll ever get back together...

recently: We are never getting back together...

Now, I have to stop the damage. To do that I have to stop pursuing, which I have done. Now I hope I'm able to reverse the momentum and start to attract her back towards me. This may be by doing nothing, by pulling back, by appearing confident etc around her. But I'm just pointing out for my own sake as much as anybody else's who is reading this that the sooner we stop pursuing the better.

There is a story in DR in the expect the impossible section where the H says he would have been much further along if he had given W the space she asked for at the beginning. I do feel if I had done that W may not have even moved out. No point dwelling on that right now but there you go - STOP PURSUING!!!