Confused & mix messages part 2

[Cherry]

So he's asking me about maybe getting new furniture to put into the BR he's in. I stay upbeat and friendly with him when discussing it. When I go back to my BR it hurts a bit- it just seems like a permanent move Everytime he does something like that. And that makes me feel further from him and closer to a D.
I do keep reminding myself that I cannot control him.
Read about goal setting in DR and what behaviours would be happening when I hit a goal. I made a note of them so I can check back to them. Operation help me become me again.
A quick q, he's started doing his own washing, when he leaves it in the machine and goes out. Should I leave it in there like I have been or put it out. He said himself he isn't comfortable with me doing things for him when he has told me he wants a D.