I haven't caught up on the entire thread, so excuse me if you covered this already. You are aware that once an A is over, it takes time to rebuild the trust AND to get over the A, right?
Her wanting to go to counselling is a sign she isn't done trying. Apathy if the opposite of love and sometimes commitment is all there is for a while.
Maybe step back and take stock of what the situation is. What it is you want. How you see things getting there.
Just a thought.
AJ
What kinda time frame are we talking to get over the affair?....she hasn't thrown in the towel despite my occasional weaknesses....Apathy is an excellent description of where she is at. She says she is completely lost and has no idea who she is or how she got where she is and that her brain is all foggy and can't think straight about much of anything. She's showing major signs of depression in my opinion and has extreme hard time making any decisions whatsoever. I think she is afraid of making any decisions because she is afraid she will make another bad choice, yet the tension is so bad in our home it's stressing her out. I am trying to GAL and keep things as peaceful as possible. I think a lot of the tension is self induced by her guilt. She thinks she has physical ailments but the Doctors can't find anything wrong with her. She has tested high in Estrogen and has zero Progesterone, and thyroid levels are off. In addition cortisol levels are super high. There maybe something all of this affecting her ability to think clearly!
thoughts?
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