Detatching is letting go of the outcome Joe. It is about being caring, loving, kind and letting others be, do, say as they are. Accepting them and their behaviour. Using your boundaries when what they do that which is unacceptable to you.

Cold and ignoring is not detatchment, cold is still affected by the outcome. Neutral is best. The so be it attitude, isn't that interesting!

If you are cold and ignoring then you are still affected. Perverse isn't it!

So let us ask a question of Joe. Select a behaviour of W (not a boundary infringement) which you would like to detatch. Something annoying but not a deal breaker.
What would detatching feel like, sound like, look like, what would Joe be doing instead?

Listening to music, eating ice cream, going for a run?

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Last edited by Vanilla; 03/30/15 12:33 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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