Hi Pink, that sounds like a good idea to me lovely lady. Fabulous Pink deserves better than a tearful H, who grabs onto her knees crying then takes off with OW for a holiday. Your boys deserve better than that too. Whilst your H is doing this, should he get to sleep in your bed and make bread at your house - NO! Says Pink....

Pink, it will be hard for sure. Your H will come, and he will be sad. And he will tell you he loves you and hope to stay over. But you have been around this loop a few times my lovely friend, and are wiser now. You can choose not to be on his rollercoaster and you are doing it, and life will be much steadier.

I'm glad you have decided to do what your are doing. I think your sitch needs some healthy boundaries. I don't think H's behaviour to you has been respectful, and I think in what you are doing you are respecting yourself. And at the end of the day - for all of us - our relationships with ourselves are more important than our M's.

Good luck Pink - Your DB friends are here if you need us xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus