Wonka, I have spoken to other lawyers who have told me how "lucky" I am that my W was "allowing" me to have so much access to my D. At the time I had almost no income and that alone was going to cause problems with my getting custody. Of course at that time my D wasn't self harming. Things have changed now that she has started acting out. I am going to contact my D's IC and school councilors and also give my W a chance to do the right thing and not try and freeze me out of the process. I am also having to deal with the IRS as I have a deadline coming up fast on that as well. If my D15 says that she wants to stay with her mother I will explain to her why I don't think that is best. If my W tries to stop me from having her I will fight with everything I have. My w has a lot more money but I really don't think that when push comes to shove she will be that motivated to spend the time and money to fight me. I really believe the only reason she didn't allow me full custody at the start was because she didn't want to pay child support. At this point I believe she is crazy enough to think that she isn't hurting D15 by the way she has acted (like leaving her home alone so often).
I am not just going to give up. I just have to figure out the right way to do this. If my W doesn't give me the info I ask for, tries to cut me out of my D's treatment I will withdraw our agreement and let her know that I will be going to court. Maybe seeing that she will be delaying what my W thinks is the "Holy Grail" to finding her "joy", getting the D finalized, maybe she will back off.
