Me too, same boat. Errod I think there is an AP in your wife's life though you may not see it yet. Maybe I am wrong, but I strongly suspect it, especially when separation and divorce process starts rapidly. My bets are that she does have an AP - sorry but that's just my opinion.
Kramer - I think we are married to the same woman as our situations are so similar.
We have to let go because that is their choice. They are not interested in being married to us anymore, period. We have to accept that our marriages are over.
Do you think your WAW cares how you felt when she started her affair and cheating on you? Do you think she thought you may view it as uncaring? No! They are entitled, do what they want, damn the consequences and don't care or consider who they hurt in the process. They destroy families, careers, finances, themselves, everyone with this "choice".
Try to live your life, let her go, stop thinking about her. She knows where you are if and when she wants to connect with you. For now, it's ALL about the AP. Sickening isn't it.
Now, if I could just take some of the advice I gave you and actually do it myself. As you are probably aware, I am struggling and every day seems to be the same endless pain.
Unfortanately I have to deal with mine as we have two kids to co-parent. She keeps saying "I chose you to be a mother". WTF that means, I don't know. I keep any interactions to email or text.
I struggle with you Kramer, Errod, Sherman and all of the other LBS's. Lets do the best we can to share and support each other through this board. Maybe we can learn from each other and the vets of course.
