How would you treat an ex girlfriend that did this? The affair would have to run its course and that can take quite a while. I wouldn't recommend jumping right into another relationship right away until you've given yourself time. Go out with people if you can. I'd recommend looking for a DivorceCare group (use google to find one) as well.
You have to focus on finding the things that make you a stronger person and happy. You have to recognize that's she gone and mourn the parts you miss and not let yourself dwell on them. I think of it as a circular process. Each time around it impacts you less.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
