Confused & mix messages part 2

[Heart14]

Cherry, you are getting some excellent advice from Sandi. I'm so glad a vet chimed in.

I wish i could sit him down and tell him how much he does mean to me. I'm immensely proud of him, he is ridiculously handsome, and up until a few months ago he has treated me like a queen. I have a lot of passion for him which I can't act on right now. But I would give almost anything to start again- to date him, to have fun.

Some of this you can do without sitting him down for a talk. Most men want to run in the other direction when you ask them to talk anyway. If he's talking to you about something and it's appropriate to compliment him, you should. You don't need to go over the top. Just make it genuine.

Another thing you can do is tell H when he does something you appreciate. Thanks for putting the dishes away/mowing the lawn/ playing with the baby while I took a shower. It doesn't have to be a something big. MDW mentions in DR thanking her husband for watching the kids while she was on a business trip. It might seem silly to need to acknowledge that, but it can help make your H feel that you value him and his contributions. Usually what you focus on is what grows.