So sorry toots, was on my phone and screen is small so thought it said train, you both are amazing with the insight. So I think the talk went very well, hashed out everything there was no talking of emotions, I did however get emotional and start to cry but only when we started on the subject of our dogs. I know I will not be able to take them with me.
I thought your duty assignment was now to stay there? (Not that you can't change it, but what happened to "being stuck" there? And maybe keeping your dogs?)
And if it was "bad" that you cried regarding the dogs, so what? It's done and in the past. Move forward.
But no, I do not think it was a sign of weakness to show compassion and love for your animal companions. Heck, we lost our 14 year old pug last week and honestly, it was traumatic and a bit surprising! I mean, I knew we loved our dog but I didn't realize what a true family member he was to each of us. It's a big thing to have a friendship with someone for years, who never lets you down and is utterly loving and loyal, and then to separate from them...
I get it. (We Literally had a service for him. I never knew we were such intense "Dog people" but we are and I'm choosing to embrace that reality).
Very hard reality to face. I do not believe that me showing emotions for them was a sign of weakness however. What do you think? We parted on very good terms, we are going to sell and split everything. She thend out of the blue asked me if I would send her all the pictures I have of our trips together on Facebook before I delete them. I really didn't understand that one but whatever. Still no mention of divorce, but everything is playing out that way. Kinda weird any insight on that one. She also asked me not to toss all our pictures in the house!
IMO, it shows she is not certain of the path she is taking AND she might be allowing some positive marital memories to resurface. Don't suppress those by challenging her on things that are not truly vital.
As for why she's not living with OM, I thnk that's mature of her actually.
She needs time apart from you, perhaps - but she certainly needs time from OM.
Time to herself. Not jumping from a marriage to another committed relationship in a day is actually wise of her.
Without the OM in her constant presence, the other issues in her (or the marriage) MIGHT get addressed. That can't be a bad thing
but I don't know how it'll play out with the marriage.
What's happening to your career plan? And college? And did you say you had ruled out OCS?
Keep on keeping on...and keep us posted!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
