D is just a formality. Once you accept that you will be D'd then I think you will be able to move forward better.
You decide when it's over. It's over when. You decide you no longer want to keep doing this.
Let your W miss you, be neighborly to her, let her see your best side. Think about when you first meet someone-- you don't really know them but you want to be friendly, you don't want to come off rude because you want that person to think highly of you.
I used to think when people posted to me, I am detached. Then a poster said to me - your H knows you're still there. I can tell from your posts. It radiates from you when you're still pursuing even if you're not actively doing anything to pursue.
