Confused & mix messages part 2

[Cherry]

I've just been reading in DR about being the one person you control and changing my behaviours.
To an extent I have, but I've also sort of backed off being cheeky etc with him as part of my detaching (now I understand detaching a bit better I understand that it doesn't mean not being me).
Again when we got together we were both very suggestive, very playful, flirty, cheeky etc and I know this has got a bit lost. We have both said we find each other attractive- and we were even having sex still up until a few weeks ago, when he said he didn't want to use me just for that if he was thinking of divorcing me.
So I am setting little goals to get me back to me. He fell in love with me once, he'll he was obsessed with me. So I know that I need to get back to that- both for my sake and his.
He has said about wanting to have a good friendship with me, do you think that this is a way for me to sort of get in in a way. Like obviously that would involve spending time with me. And if I can implement the changes as well as my GAL activities, he should then begin to see I'm me again and maybe come back towards me?

I wish i could sit him down and tell him how much he does mean to me. I'm immensely proud of him, he is ridiculously handsome, and up until a few months ago he has treated me like a queen. I have a lot of passion for him which I can't act on right now. But I would give almost anything to start again- to date him, to have fun.