Thanks Jim, it helps to know the male perspective. It's almost like a love languages thing. I would do other things to show H I loved him. Cook him a nice meal, light some candles and so on. And after BD he acknowledged how much tenderness there always was. But it's true that I stopped making such an effort to dress/look nice 'for him.' Although I'm no slouch on the appearances front - a onesie and ugg girl I'm not!
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
