Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

[dejavu2]

I am am actually on vacation but my head is spinning.

Finally spoke with H on day 5 of vacation. We have a ton of stuff going on as trying to get house ready for market, kids stuff, etc... He tells me he is leaving the morning after I return to go to US for interviews, his schedule is fluid but he should be home in about 2 weeks. I suggested he find someplace else to live when he returns, pointing out the small guest cottage on our property. He throws a fit and says maybe he wIll stay in the US. Why is he being stubborn about living in the main house? It feels like the kids and I cant start to heal. Do I have to wait for him to have a plan on his life before he moves out?! I feel like we are an emotional convienence for him. He is still insisting that he wants a divorce bc he is tired of the conflict and he isn't happy.

He has taken 5 of life's biggest stresses and decided to do them all at once -- lost job, finding new job, selling house, moving abroad and a divorce. He is very stressed and short tempered with me. Every conversation w have is a fight -- he feels like I am telling him what a failure he is (which I am not) -- I just need to sort plans and I am asking him for accountability.

What do you suggest?!