So he hasn't come home again. Ignoring the need to text him. This seems like the norm for the weekend right now. And obviously if I start asking him where/what he's doing and that this isn't acceptable when we have a young baby this is gonna be seen as me nagging right?
I call it guilting. And can you see how you used the baby for leverage? He already has jealousy toward the baby, so don't make matters worse by guilting him as a father.
You are not going to successfully whip him into being the H you think he should be. And you do not have to condone any of his inappropriate behavior. Sometimes the LBW thinks she must respond in a negative way so he will know it's not okay to do what he's doing. He is an adult, and you can't punish him and then expect his attitude to change. keep reminding yourself that you are not his mother.
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So do I just roll with it for now? And when he returns just be polite, not overly happy but not all moody?
Pretty much, yes, for now. You are the only person in this M you get to control. Go about your life, working on yourself, and having no expectations from him.
This is not to say you show subservient behavior when he's home. Far from it. Be spunky, saucy, cheeky, a little sassy. Have a healthy balance of sugar &. spice.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
