TB, your W sounds deep in fog at the moment. I certainly wouldn't engage in any of her plans to 'save' your R somewhere down the line. If you want to stay in the house, stay in the house. Further down the line if she comes out of the fog, and you guys want to try again, that's the time to think about moving perhaps.
If she is still in touch with OM in this way, and still wanting him - those are big danger signs, and you need to make you number one priority. Not entertain these 'mad plans' that she has.
Personally, I would go pretty dark and live your own life for now. Your W may or may not choose to join you at some point down the line...
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
