Hi Z. I think you are doing a lot of mindreading in the above post there about H motives. And you are putting the worst possible spin on them.

If I look at it, I see a man who isn't in a good place and is finding it hard to let go...

I haven't read all of your sitch carefully, so I would qualify the above with that. But do be careful not to interpret things in the worst possible way.

Take care Z..

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus