Please Excuse me if this has already been brought up but why are you talking about OM with your W??
My H never talked about OW. It was as if she didn'texist. However when he showed up to our boys basketball practice driving a car that wasn't his (I knew it was hers). I said who's car is that... He started mumbling that it was a car that belonged to a guy at the shop. I cut him off raised my hand in the air and said - H we both know that's not true. Don't insult my intelligence I made the boys get in the car and told them to say bye to their dad and we left.
That never happened again...
I think you're engaging her too much.. She knows she has you on the hook. Where's the Alpha that's independent? Confident? Won't take his W talking to him about another man she's sleeping with??
And yes - I personally had an H that was terrible during S. And here we are. So it is possible but you need to work on yourself before you can have a healthy R.
Youve got to look at yourself and ask yourself what you really want?
