So I am divorced.

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Lost - as always thanks for checking up on me. RD & Gogo, thanks for looking in and sharing.

This past week I was really wrapped up with work and the side job. We made some progress and I'm really trying to make the most of the opportunities. It is really consuming work and helps forget about life as it was. I believe I have come to terms with many things, a ton about myself through the journey and learning. All and all I have felt pretty good and been in a good state of mind.

At the end of the week my Aunt died. It was troubling and had been for sometime for her. The wake was yesterday and the funeral today. As far as I know my X knows nothing about it.

Yesterday, she called around 7 PM to say goodnight to the kids. I missed the call and texted her back, around 745 when I was leaving the wake. I said "Sorry about the phone call. I was at a wake." I received no response from her.

Tonight she called at 643 PM, while we were eating after the reception (my sister's family (of 5), plus me and my 2 munchkins and my parents, basically 5 under the age of 5). It was busy. I didn't hear the call. I saw it at 650 or so, gathered the kids in a quiet room (my nephew also wanted to talk to "his Aunt) so we went to a back room and called back at 709. 10 seconds into the conversation, I receive a text from her: "I would like to say goodnight to the kids. This is not okay."

We proceeded to have a conversation to the best of our ability, as any 1 person can do with a 5, 4 and 2 yr old. As the conversation progressed, I could tell she was crying. We hung up.

Then I went to write many things in a text to her. But basically edited everything out and only sent "I received this text after we had been talking to you." And she did not respond. There were many things I wanted to write.

The "this is not okay" statement bothered me greatly, and with me on the phone she choose not to mention anything. And the fact she was crying also concerns me.

Just as I know nothing about her life, she knows nothing about mine. And yet she always air's on the side of blame and acquisitions. Giving me no flexibility, communication, compassion or understanding. But I do believe she expects it from me, when it suits her. I am not attempting on any level to keep the kids from her, or from preventing them to talk to her. Last night was the only night we have missed a conversation with her, and it was for a wake. As identified by herself, she is passive aggressive. And the more I think about that in this situation, the more it fits and contributes to many issues. Obviously for all these reason's she on some level does not trust me, would rather continue to be a victim and therefore, have resentment and blame towards me.

As for the crying. I have no idea, why? Perhaps she didn't want to talk to Dalton. Perhaps, she was that upset with me

I would like to text her back, but I honestly have no idea what to write. Thoughts?