Just to add: W mentioned at one point yesterday how her and OM are 'best friends'. She said A wasn't planned, friendship turned PA. He showed interest when she felt low due to our R. After her recent proclamations they don't speak and he's a user, this would seem to be closer to the truth.
I texted to confirm child plans for today a few minutes ago. W called back. We agreed to get on and be friendlier to each other. I am having the kids all day today and overnight. She mentioned how a separated friend at school went to court and the father got 4 hours visitation every other Saturday. Deep down she can still understand I am and have always been a great father to our children. She tried to bring up trust issues but I squashed them and said that's in the past, let's focus on getting on from now on. She still dragged out the BS but ultimately agreed.
One other thing she mentioned was taking the kids on holiday. She says she hasn't got much money now (there's a surprise) and so needs to sell the house ASAP. I acknowledged that and said that going on a 'normal' holiday is up to her of course but if she wanted to take the kids on a once in a lifetime holiday (we've always talked about Disneyland, Florida) then I'd like to go as a family. She said things are too raw now. I agreed. But I said you ain't planning on going this year though are you? She said no, so in the future when things settle down, yes, I (she) understands why I'd want to and agrees.
It seems after every horrible day follows a slightly better one. I shall continue DBing and 'connecting through yes'. I've read most of 5LLs now. I think (from what I've read so far) that words of affirmation and quality time are her main two love languages. So that leaves me in a pickle right now as we haven't been getting on and we haven't been spending time with each other much hahaha. I guess that's something for later down the line.
You are not a family. Your former wife is "best friends" with another male. What room does that leave you? She sleeps with him. Betrays you with him, priorities him over you.
