Confused & mix messages part 2

[Cherry]

Sandi2, thank you SO much for the advise. Some things have really struck a cord with me there. Me and H have always been relatively mature having both had difficult pasts which have aged us maturely. However we had a lot of time together- maybe too much, and we would be jokey, childlike in a way. When we got together we both pretty much gave up doing anything that didn't involve each other (hindsight shows me that was wrong).
I don't think I nag him anymore- however I do wonder if I sound too cheery, when I ask is he coming back that night or the next day and I say "okay, I'll see you then" I wonder if I'm doing the wrong thing my making it sound like its a reasonable thing to be doing.
The thing that really struck a cord is how you say about men wanting to be desired, and admired. He has recently been asking me if he looks alright.. Though I've took it as him sort of rubbing my face in it- like you can look but can't have kind of thing. He has also told me recently that he's doing well at work. I have congratulated him on that and told him I do want him to do well for himself. There has been times he's said things which I've mentioned in previous posts which have sounded like the things he was coming out when I first got to know him. Sort of bragging in a way, and I've just brushed that off and barely acknowledged him.
You've given me a lot of food for thought. Though I am unsure how to implement lovingly distancing myself whilst making him feel desired etc.
I have admitted to him when we had some R conversations that I do feel I have neglected him since baby arrived. And he didn't argue at all with that making me think I had hit the nail on the head.