Errod, let go of the control. You are getting paranoid. Your D has a right to turn off her phone. Maybe her and mom out together and she forgot it, or mom asked her to leave it off. I could see that happening, even if you can't.

It does not mean your W is filling D's head about stuff to turn her against you. However, you stand a good chance of ruining your R with your D by this type of behavior! Stop it. She will feel like she is being pulled in two halves.

Maybe she couldn't deal with questions or trying to choose between her parents today. I suppose even teenagers could get tired of drama. She's smart. She knows when you are fishing to check up on her mother. You have to stop it.

Now get out of the house and find something else to do. If you don't, you will over react when you do finally hear from her.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!