...Now if I text or call her at night she won't answer so I think she is out. But then if I drive by her house I will see she is home the entire time and no other cars are there...
For the first time I am truly trying to commit to DBing. I have not called or texted all day today. Which is very hard for me to do. I have kept semi busy. I went for a long ride, I ran 5 miles, I read, and I napped.
I have tried everything else up to this point and nothing else worked. So now it is time to commit to this DBing plan. I really have nothing to lose, I already loss.
Errod, I hear the pain you are in. You are trying to figure out why your W left you, what she is doing, see the problems in W's life by her choosing to live life on her own (W looking tired), see what W has said to d14, etc. This is normal, but it will drive you crazy if you continue on this path.
I hope you see the problem here. EVERYTHING is revolving around W. Your entire focus is on your W and what she has done, and what she is doing. I hope that you see this.
You say that you need the board right now. You have already received some great advice. I hope that you listen to it. Get away from your computer, take your mind off of your sitch, and do anything else. A movie, walk around a mall, go to church, find a support group, all of these things you can do on your own without anyone else. But the key here is to detach and get your mind on anything else.
You will see your d14 tomorrow, and she is not returning your calls today (and blaming your W for this?) Give your daughter a break. You love her, you want to hear from her, but she is in pain also. Don't make her to be your support system, you need to think about her needs. If it is something important send d14 a text. But I recommend you do NOT call W. This is the key to start your journey of detaching. Accepting that there are many things in life that are out of your control. Peace.
