Newbie seeking some experienced advice

[nick77]

Thank you both for the advice and replies but I think it's certainly done now.
My son told me a week or so ago he had thoughts of hurting himself and I tried to deal with it by myself as I didn't want to alarm W. She's already going through a lot. I told her yesterday and asked that she talk to him and she said she would talk to him last night. She went to dinner with friends and after about 9pm I contacted her to see when she'd be home and she told me to just drop our son at her parents if I needed to because she wouldn't be home for awhile.
I lost it. I went off the deep end and said some things about her priorities I know I shouldn't have said. Long story short she told me to file for divorce cuz she's done and then today told me if I don't she is going to. I wish I would've taken a deep breath and stepped back for a moment but I couldn't believe she wasn't that concerned about what I told her.