I had hoped I would get a post from you! At the same time I wonder how on earth you can keep such clear and concise tabs on all of us, and remember all that's gone on in our lives! Do you keep profiles on us? LOL.
My girls are doing great, really just wonderful. If I've succeeded in anything in my life, it's my girls. They are happy, thriving, and are doing so well in school. My D12 seems to be growing up and maturing into a "tween", but not into the drama that comes with the age. For that Im truly grateful.
D15, has mentally and spiritually grown in so many ways, she seems wiser than me at times. We talk about her feelings and choice to not speak to her father. She hides nothing about her feelings from me. Yet all I can really see is that she just needs to be angry at him now. Basically releasing all the repressed anger and frustration she had when she was younger and for the most part forced to partake in visitations I now know she truly hated and resented all along.
Both of them are on honor roll with ease. D12 missed 10 days of school last month due to a severe tonsillitis. I brought her homework for her to work on, and within 5 days of going back to school she not only finished her homework, she surpassed the entire class and was ahead by 3 days of assignments. And she passed with flying colors, still pulling an A average. She tells me she would like to do homeschooling because she can concentrate better.
Job, Im going to read those threads you suggested. Why am I confused? To be honest I truly didn't think he WOULD EVER START TO COME OUT OF THIS AND SETTLE DOWN! I accepted he would twist in the wind forever and this is who he is from here on out. I never did read alot of re-connection because I just didn't see it happen. I was just content with civil exchanges. Now they've gone from civil, to down right friendly.
Yes Im seeing the man he was pre crisis. A man I thought was dead forever!
No He hasn't mentioned anything in the way of our divorce and what happened. He still can remember our life before pre crisis like the back of his hand. I asked him questions about some computer program back in the fall, and he recited back to me exactly what the program was, when it was installed, how we used it, and how it's going to be outdated now, etc. Kept using "we" when referring to the sitch.
I don't know Job, maybe I just pushed on so damn hard, and mentally conditioned myself that this was a man that would never be the way he used to be, would never change for the better, and would always been completely self absorbed, that when I've now seen consistent small but positive changes, it's just shaken me to the core. I had zero expectations. Now he's exceeded all of that, without any request on my part. He's done it on his own.
