I don't think the problem is him. I think the "problem" is within you. Your H (from where I see it) has shown you his true colors all along: immature, lack of ability to communicate, irresponsible, etc so forth. They were right there. Evident from the start.
Yet, you kept going and going further along despite the fact that he showed, and continued to do so, who he was all along. I get the impression that you wanted to fix him, to bring him up to the potential that you saw, but not for him, but for yourself. You keep making statements through your sitch that you felt, in your opinion, that he should be bending over backwards to apologize to you for his actions, yet why should you when for seven years you gave him the ok to treat you like [censored]? You ignored the warning signs from day one. But you're here wondering what happened? The question I think you need to ask yourself Zelda, is not why didn't he change or why didn't he get better or why does he not show remorse? Instead, evaluate why, despite all of the signs of his instability and behaviors (seemingly) being out in the open, did you continue with this relationship? You vent a lot of anger and I feel that at times you felt that you should've been treated better than this and rightly so. So why did you stay for seven years in a relationship that wasn't healthy for you?
Was sticking with it and trying to fix him really for him? Or was it trying to fix something within you?
I am so sorry that you are going through this, I really am.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
