Continuing DBing

[PeterV2]

Yeah we're still going on vacation together. With D27 & fiancé.
Leaving 7:30 am tomorrow morn. I may not post for a week.

D27 & fiancé are staying at our place tonight and we're leaving from here in the morning. I guess D27 & F will be sleeping on the couch. I guess that puts me either sleeping in my own bed with W or on an air mattress in the spare room - as we don't have a doghouse.

[u-turn]

Peter - Sorry for this latest, but roll up those sleeves.

I hope for the best for you this week! Maybe a good time to file the troubles away for a while.

Thanks for your continual support

Good Luck

[PeterV2]

Thanks U-turn. I'm very hopeful for your sitch. Sounds promising. Just remember it will be a zigzag and roll through the tough times.

[Wonka]

Peter,

Crazy! I wouldn't have gone on a vacation with W given her recent actions/behaviors. I get that it has been paid for etc.

At some point, W needs to decide to be all in or out. In fact, I strongly feel that RH has been the albatross for your M. You'll need to ditch the RH and divest yourselves of that business. Frankly, I sincerely believe that operating RH has been toxic for your M.

[PeterV2]

Got back from the vacation on Tues morn. We had a room with two double beds but as they were pushed together we slept side by side the whole week. No shyness about nudity. But also no touching - or very little. She would occasionally touch me playfully. We had a relaxing and fun time with D27 and her fiancé.

But when we got home our cat was rushed to the hospital with neurological trauma. He's still in the hospital after an MRI today. Still no diagnosis, but the worst case scenarios have been ruled out. W is beside herself with worry - she has a very close bond to our kitty.

So no R talk for the past 10 days. A bit of a relief. I do feel like bringing it up, but I had said I wouldn't, so I'll stick to my word. Just continue the limbo, but most of all deal with the cat issue right now and support W in her worry.

[Wonka]

Peter,

Welcome back!

I hope the kitty is okay and the vet can figure it out.

Sometimes it helps to step away from all R talk and just let be. Be in the moment.

[PeterV2]

Thanks Wonka.

It's just so cold. No more hugs hello or goodbye. No more kisses goodnight. It's a big chill and I'm having a hard time with it. Especially now that I'm also very emotional about our cat - he was actually my cat until he adopted W.

He got sick with diabetes back in Aug 2013 when our marriage fell apart. I hope he's not a barometer of our R. I sure hope he recovers regardless.

[PeterV2]

Cat came home from the hospital last night. Starting to recover.

A couple days ago W told me never to see that woman from the RH again. She's coming to visit her mum over Easter, so I won't be able to spend the night at the RH. I guess W will have to. Not sure if she's aware of that reality yet.

I'm thinking I should send that woman a text to say never to contact me again - sort of modelling what I would like to see from W. Then when I ask W to do that same I'll have set the precedent.

What do y'all think of that?

[twinmom]

I think you went down a slippery slope with mixing personal/professional life.....

And honestly I don't think sending that woman a no contact letter will have ANY impact on your wife in any way.

[PeterV2]

Sure it was a slippery slope mixing personal/professional life and that's what W is so mad about. But a bit of double standards, as OM was son of one of the RH residents.

W brought up the issue again today - saying that I still haven't apologized. I told her that I did, but I apologized again.

She again stated that she wasn't looking to have an A - it just happened. I said nothing about that.

But I did say that I want D27 & fiancé to have not only a great wedding but a great marriage. I said that I teach my children by example. And that example being that if you get into a rough patch in your marriage, you roll up your sleeves and do the work required to rebuild and strengthen your marriage.

W just listened and didn't comment.

I'm thinking that she's been acting jealous lately if I talk to other women. This could mean that she does want me in her life.

The mutual caretaking of our cat seems to be bringing us closer together. Still she makes comments about our different household cleanliness standards. I didn't argue. I've been rather busy lately and don't need to get nagged about not cleaning the bathroom floor often enough. I'm the one earning all the money right now, running both our businesses. But I'm not about to play that card. Let her nag - I've got a spew jacket that keeps me safe.