You have changed Lou. Please don't allow H to undo all the strength you have gained over the last few months. I know this stings but he is still with her. There is this saying, "When people show you who they are believe them."

Who knows what the future will bring but for now you must focus on yourself. I have no doubt that H misses you but he is not doing anything except keeping you on the back burner. Gosh that sounds cruel to write those words but H is living in your home while you are struggling.

Enough about him. Let's talk about you and all you want to accomplish. Lou you have been such an inspiration to me. I love the way you look at life. Your ability to remain positive is what will get you through this tough time.

Allow yourself a meltdown or two. Be hopeful but also be realistic right now. H is not helping you IMHO and maybe that's why you miss the UK?

M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou