Hi Alpha, yes people reconcile from worse places than you are now - but normally before people get there, things can get pretty dire seeming.

MWD helpfully sets out the things to definitely avoid - R talks, crying, begging, pleading - which all can lead to D.

So, the wrong things to do are pretty clear. The right things are harder to gauge.

Have you read about the Stockdale Paradox? Mozza posted about that and it has helped me. The concept is to have faith that things will ultimately work out well, and engage in the brutal reality of now. And that's the paradox.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus