So when I was pregnant with my first child, I made a decision that every day was going to have to include a hot shower and a good cup of coffee to meet my minimum standard for a good day. Later I included exercise on that list. No matter what happened, if I got the things on my list, then I could look back and call that day a success. If the baby screamed through the shower and it only lasted three minutes, I still made sure I felt fresh for the day. Minimum standards.

I met that standard every single day that each of my kids was under three. I missed two days in all those years -- because those two days were so awful that I was motivated to make meeting my minimum standards a priority.

I have gotten away from that minimum standard idea but I think it's necessary to have those priorities in place when you're going through a tough time. In fact, now that I'm telling you about this I think I need to reinstate that idea for myself.

So, NS-OD, what will your minimum standards (within your control) be for a good day? What will you commit to doing for yourself every day to get through this period?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.