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[bravo61]

hey Mozza, thanks for the reply.

i currently work overnite shift 4 on 3 off so i'm very limited in the GAL aspect during the "work week". i make a point of getting out and running/working out. when i have the kids the other 3 days, we are constantly moving. we go to parks, play baseball, soccer, hikes, road trips, i'm teaching my daughter to read (man that's tough!), movies, children's museums, pro basketball games, semi pro hockey games, rollerderby, trip out of the country, ect.

i've tried to arrange the schedule so that on wednesdays (hand off day) i take her to daycare for her to be picked up. some weeks i can't do that as i don't know the XW schedule (she pre-sets the daycare days and i rearrange the days on my part of the week if i have something i have to do). on sundays (my 1st day for pick up) i'm kinda stuck.

i have been SO MUCH better about presenting the moving on attitude in front of her and not being dependent on her mood. just sometimes in my alone moments it really hits me hard.

i know i have had a couple of different occasions in the past when we hung out just us and had a good time. i haven't asked for that because i was tired of being mistreated and misrepresented by her. not really sure of where to go for now besides keep being the best person i can be.

it does seem like most of the advice i've seen around here is more revolved around infidelity and that's understandable. i can't really think of a lot of other sitchs off the top of my head (prolly cause i'm sleep deprived) where the spouse was a WAS without an A.