think the DB approach for LBWs should differ slightly from the LBHs. Because the female and male dynamic is quite different.
Case in point.
For WAWs, the connection to the OM is emotional.
For WAHs, the connection is visual and sexual.
For DBing to be successful, the LBH needs to come down HARD on the WAW because the emotional allure is like a powerful riptide tearing her and the M asunder.
For DBing to be successful, the LBW needs to re-attract her WAH for men really like the chase and are visually-oriented.
Generally, your "Sandi's Rules" list applies to both sets of LBSes equally irrespective of the situation: IA, EA, PA, MLC.
Thanks so much, Wonka, and I totally agree. I have been asked a few times to give advice particularly for the LBW, but felt I probably needed to stick to an area I had personally experienced. I made a stab at trying to explain something similar to what you've said, and took nearly two pages to do a hatchet job. Just deleted the whole mess! (ha). I don't want to completely ignore any lady who may be dealing with a wayward H, and really appreciate any advice anyone gives. However, as you've said, it is different b/c of the dynamics. So if anyone should give thoughts that apply other than for the LBH who has a WW, I hope it will be noted.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
