That's good. But you need to recognise that the backslides can pretty much 'undo' other positive progress that you may be making. This is why we are focusing on the emotional control so much right now.

Above all else, seek to achieve pleasant neighbourly interactions with your W without the emotional backsliding. Maybe this is a goal for your next meet up - get that consistent approach throughout the meet up. Not for most of if and then you crash.

If you find yourself about to say something, clap your hand over your mouth if needs be. Or jump up and say - I just remembered something! And go make a phone call or something. Whatever strategies will work to stop you from doing this. And when you feel it coming on, switch to intellect/business and use your strategy.

In terms of how W might be once she settles - who knows? But if you can be steady in the face of her behaviour, that is a triumph in itself. So, maybe don't hope that she will change, hope that you will manage to change yourself...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus