Alpha - the future is now!

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"At the end of the trip out I pointed out (mistakenly) how people overcome As, how feelings change over time, so on and so forth. I mixed this up by saying the sooner things were settled the better. She said what you mean. I stupidly said sooner I don't have to deal with you and we get D. This was the one main thing I regret from the evening. I retracted it a moment later, said I didn't want divorce."

"I kept everything in check until the final few minutes. I didnt plead or beg etc but I did cry. Stupid I know. I said that however long it took, I hoped one day we could work things out. To sum her response up, she basically said she had no feelings for me, I'd destroyed them through my treatment of her, and she couldnt say 'one day' because it wouldn't be fair to give false hope"

Sorry it was a difficult evening Alpha. So the two examples above are where you backslid. Areas like these are to be avoided at all costs. If you find yourself straying towards R talk, or being drawn into R talk, just don't go there. Your W isn't in a receptive place at all right now and will just give you no hope.

This is the important thing about managing your emotions, so you don't make these mistakes again my friend. So, you acknowledge you need to keep yourself in check - and sounds like you mostly did. But recognise the danger points. Maybe when you are about to part and so on - and handle those differently.

Hope you have a good weekend :-)