How about the old chestnut - Wow....really?

I certainly wouldn't try and reason with him or challenge him on it. I think that's a cheeseless tunnel and it would be 'words' rather than actions.

However, telling him about what you are up to now may 'show' some of your changes. And I wonder if you want to 'show' rather than tell. Not in an obvious way of course, but if he always thought you dressed conservatively and you have now taken up burlesque, it may open his eyes a little.

Are you doing things yourself now that you never (and maybe he never) would have thought you would do? What were his main concerns about why you 'weren't compatible?'

But I think the main thing is to aim for a light, fun time. And for him to remember that he enjoys your company and perhaps has missed it. And for it to be evident that you are moving forwards without him and that will continue..

Last edited by Toots; 03/27/15 09:13 PM.
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