Don't roll your eyes too hard, but I know because she told me. She's been so insanely forthcoming about her feelings during this thing, good bad and ugly, that I doubt she's going to make up something to tell me that's so inconsequential. She didn't have to say a thing.
^^^ it's a good thing actually because she's starting to open up a bit more to you. That's the path toward healing. It seems that your MC counselor is giving you two some really good homework assignments. Keep it up.
I also think you are ready for this book:
Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers & Lovers-To-Be
by Eve Eschner Hogan with Steven Hogan
I would suggest that you read the book alone. Do this exercise for yourself. Then you might want to select a question or two from the book to ask W during one of your date nights or whatever you two do alone as a couple. This book is perfect for those who are in piecing or in the beginning stages of reconciliation--especially for LBS.
This book really opened my eyes and made me think about my FOO issues, my overall outlook on what I truly want in an intimate partnership, and how I can be more mindful of my shortcomings.
