Intel requires snooping, right? I am far more capable of successfully snooping in this digital age than i care to admit online. I have found it best to not engage in it because for me, once I crack the seal on it I will not stop. That's a distraction in my life I don't need from GALing successfully - basically I just don't have the time to devote to it.
There are easy ways to handle this. You can only check it, say, once a week, or twice a month. Or -- even better -- have a trusted third party monitor your intel for you and give you only an "executive summary" every week (or again, twice a month) and immediately only if there is an immediate threat to your finances, health or family.
For the life of me, I will never understand why people prefer to fly thru these difficult situations without instruments. Just makes no sense to me, but suit yourself. It's certainly not "disrespectful" to protect your family from a potential predator.
