WAS asked for divorce today.

[aNewGuy]

Intel requires snooping, right? I am far more capable of successfully snooping in this digital age than i care to admit online. I have found it best to not engage in it because for me, once I crack the seal on it I will not stop. That's a distraction in my life I don't need from GALing successfully - basically I just don't have the time to devote to it.

Even though I know you're right - that would be a highly effective way to get the answers I want - I also consider it disrespectful. Showing respect, or "Validating", is a 180 I need to do in this situation even though her wayward ways are an excellent example or her disrespecting me right now.

Maybe I will just ask her outright when we meet tomorrow to discuss this divorce she so suddenly wants.

Just got off the phone with my DB coach. She really has so quickly helped me fill in so many blanks in this area of my life, the best money I have ever spent.

I'll be sure to update this thread sometime this weekend with the results of my first face to face meeting with my wayward, walk away wife tomorrow outside of the workplace. This forum is proving a great place to "journal" and learn and reflect. I can't believe how far I have come since the bomb was dropped.

Far enough to realize I still have a long way to go...

I miss the true friendship of my wife, and cried today again for the first time in a week or so. This too shall pass. Time to keep on keepin' on!