Thank you both for your comments. I asked W a few months ago if she would please help me by expressing to me some of the things I have done that hurt her so I may work on these things. She would not do it. A few days later we had a talk and when she got mad( I remained calm) she shared a few of these things. The emotional abuse comment came from her when she was freaking out after I started my own cell phone plan and got off hers. I may have become defensive when this subject was brought up to me on this board, because I thought emotional abuse was more like what toots said. The things that I have acknowledged as my faults here did not occur daily or even weekly. These happened once in awhile.
On the other hand, my wife could see some of this as emotional abuse to HER. In which case I feel like I should acknowledge this so I don't create that feeling in her. Or anyone else for that matter. My W has had self esteem issues through most of our time together. I should have acknowledged that better and been more sensitive to that. One of my faults is never looking at things from someone else's point of view. For instance, wedding rings. I never wore one after our wedding day. Mostly because of my job. But on the days I was not working, I did not wear one because I did not like jewelry. But what if my W went to town without wearing her's? I really can't say anything. But now I started looking at it from her point of view. Maybe it makes her feel good that I wear it. She knows that I am showing people I am married. Before I only thought about my feelings about it.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
